Saturday, January 11, 2014

The Age of Defiance

Feel free to ignore this, because I really just needed to vent about a really annoying stage, and some of these are bad examples. 

Evan is deep into a defiant stage. He will refuse to do pretty much anything we ask him. It leads to good times like these:

*In the morning right before we normally get Evan to sit on the potty (right after he got up)*
Me: Evan, to get a sticker for the potty chart* you know all you have to do is say "I need to go potty" and then go!
Evan: NO (shaking his head)
Me: Just say "I need to go potty", then you get a sticker! Then all you need is one more sticker to get a prize!
Evan: No (shaking his head)
Me: Evan, you know you have to sit on the potty when you wake up. so just say "I need to go potty" and you'll get a sticker!!
Evan: NO (shaking his head)

*Evan has a giant sliver in his finger*
DH: Okay, just sit still and I'll get it out quickly
Evan: NOOOO!!!!! I don't like it!!
Me: Evan, just look at mommy and it'll be over quick!
Me: Okay, just watch cartoons!
Evan: SHREIK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DH: You need to stay still
Me: Evan, if you don't let daddy do it, then it might get infected and then hurt really bad.
Evan: SHREIK!!!!!!!
DH: Evan, it will only take a second! I used to hate this too, but my dad did it for me too.
Evan: SHREIK!!!!!
Me: Evan, either daddy does it, or we'll have to go to the doctor. Would you rather go to the doctor?
Evan: NOO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: Okay, then just let daddy do it!
Evan: SHRIEK!!!!!!!!!!! NOOOO!!! I DON'T LIKE IT!!!!
*DH wraps him in a blanket, pins him down, and gets the sliver out*
Evan: goes back to watching cartoons and is totally fine

Playing games with him is SO infuriating. I know he understands the rules, but refuses to follow them, even though I say things like "it's way more fun when everyone plays by the rules!". And then he just starts doing whatever he wants, and I know it's just to do something other than what I ask him too.

We also almost lost the kid at Home Depot last week because he refused to stay beside us or come back when he ran down the aisle. I tried to explain to him that it's dangerous of him to go off on his own like that, but he just refused to get it (even though I know he can). Argh!! This was extra infuriating because he's normally very well behaved in these situations.

What annoys me the most is when he outright refuses to do things he used to be able to do or we know he can do them (like getting dressed, or setting up the potty, or cleaning up his toys).

Any tips on:
a) How to reasons with a three year old (I know you can't, but how can you get important things through to them?)
b) How to go from peeing/pooing on the potty when we get him to sit there (on a schedules and/or with a timer), to him knowing he needs to and either telling us OR going himself?

*Yes, I'm at that point! I think he's so close, but he just needs some extra motivation somehow!