Thursday, April 24, 2014

Sleep Woes

Holy man, after hitting the jackpot in sleep with Evan, we were spoiled. He slept through the night at about 6 weeks and never stopped. Yes, we've had our issues here and there: there was a period where it took a long time to get him to go to sleep at night, or when we had to drive him around for naps - but otherwise, it's been pretty smooth.

Carter has been a different story, and I am running out of ideas. Here's a brief history:

- As a newborn he'd wake up every 3 hours to eat (as expected)

- He slept through the night for the first time at about 6 weeks - we thought we'd hit the jackpot again!

- After that he'd sleep through the night probably about 70% of the time. Otherwise, waking up once to take a bottle in the middle of the night.

- At about 4-months, he started sleeping less soundly. He wouldn't wake up to eat, but we'd have to go into his room multiple times a night to sooth him back to sleep. We chalked this up to the 4-month sleep regression.

- After 2-3 weeks of that, he slept through the night for a couple weeks and it was glorious.

- Then it all went to hell. Going back to sleeping less soundly and us needing to go sooth him back to sleep multiple times a night, like during the regression. This went on for a few weeks.

- Then, he got a bad cold and was absolutely inconsolable 1-2 times per night. At this point, one of us started sleeping with him in the guest room. This helped him sleep a bit better, but still not great.

- About a week ago now, he started to wake up every 3 hours and wanted to eat (the only thing that would calm him down would be to give him a bottle). He would sleep well in between feeds, but only in bed with one of us. We chalked this up to a 6-month growth spurt.

- Now he seems to be cutting back on his night feeding, but he's still not sleeping soundly, and we are alternating who spends the night in the guest room with him.

I don't know what to do anymore. We know he's able to sleep through the night, but it's been so long that we're at the end of our ropes. We thought things would get better after the growth spurt, but don't know if it's still going on or not. Even though he wants extra milk at night, he refuses to take extra milk during the day instead. He's also started solids and is clearly ingesting some now. So, we thought this would help too, but it hasn't seemed too.

This is more of a rant, but if anyone has any advice or suggestions, please let me know. We've been trying to avoid the cry-it-out method, but we're getting to the point where we might want to try sleep training. If anyone has used techniques that worked for you, please let me know that too.

Sleep is like water to survive, and it's been really tough the last few weeks. With the stroke, fatigue hits me worse than ever. It was so bad about a week ago that I felt like I was spiralling into a depression.